Dating another teacher
Dating > Dating another teacher
Click here: ※ Dating another teacher ※ ♥ Dating another teacher
Retrieved 25 November 2016. Gavin said he'd tell me later why she was in the car, and he said that she was at his house as a surprise,' he said. Sexual Harassment: An Introduction to the Conceptual and North Issues. Relationships between students and teachers can be often quite intimate and intense as they share common passions and interests. On the contrary, show that unmarried women, especially those living with a man outside of marriage, are at a higher risk of domestic violence. More on MSN: Things about u that couples should know Expensive vacations are nice, but all it really takes to feel more connected is a good belly laugh.
Stephen remembers very clearly the first time he got a text message from a pupil. I had no idea who it was, and I didn't reply. Then three nights later there was another one: 'Lets have fun lol. By the end, they were quite abusive. I kept thinking, if I don't respond, they'll stop, and in the end they did. But yes, it was unpleasant. I lost sleep over it. So did my wife. Then they put it online and basically had a guess-the-bum competition. All quite innocent, you know, but very, very personal. The girls were all wildly apologetic afterwards, but I'm not at all sure they thought they'd really done anything wrong. It was a lesson to me, though. I'm very, very careful what I say and do now. I panicked: what if the pupil misinterpreted that, what if her parents saw it? In the event, nothing was ever said, but it made me think. We're in a different situation these days. Last week, it was the turn of Christopher Reen, a classroom supervisor who became the fifth member of staff in three years at his school to face criminal charges over a sexual relationship with a pupil. In both cases, mobile phone text messages — allegedly, in the case of Reen and a 15-year-old pupil at Headlands school in Bridlington, Yorkshire, more than 800 of them — were submitted in court as evidence of the offence. But behind these headline-grabbing scandals lies a more mundane reality for teachers today, which, while it cannot excuse such incidents, may perhaps go part of the way to explaining them: in parallel with the steady erosion of formality in society as a whole, new ways of communicating including email, text messaging and social networking sites are radically altering the relationship between pupils and teachers. Once upon a time, teachers simply did not exist outside school. There was a fixed distance; a clear definition of roles; lines that should not and, more often than not, could not be crossed. Now, contact outside the classroom is not only easier but, in many schools, actively encouraged — school web portals on which teachers and students can upload and download assignments, email each other questions and answers, post announcements and sometimes even chat in real time, are increasingly becoming the norm. That fixed distance is shortening; those old boundaries — between professional and private, home and school, formal and informal — are blurring. It has been illegal in Britain since 2001 for a teacher to engage in sexual activity with any pupil at their school under the age of 18. The NASUWT says it deals with about 800 allegations of misconduct against its members each year, but only five or six involving inappropriate sexual contact most concern alleged physical abuse. As obviously inexcusable as they are, however, some teachers feel the intense media and public focus on a small number of high-profile cases such as those of Goddard and Reen — or, to take two more, Jenine Saville-King, a Watford teaching assistant cleared two years ago of sexual activity after exchanging 200 pages of MSN messages in three months and 120 text messages in four days with a 15-year-old pupil, and Madeleine Martin, a religious education teacher from Manchester, who this month admitted an eight-day affair with a 15-year-old boy from her school whom she first arranged to meet on Facebook — may be missing a much broader point. That's always happened, and I imagine it always will. Electronic media certainly gives greater access. But while it may also give the illusion of creating a private space, it's also written evidence. There is definitely an issue here, though. Electronic communication is different. And while schools are creating web portals and actively encouraging online contact between staff and pupils, there are all sorts of guidelines warning us never ever to use Facebook with students, or to give out our personal mobile phone numbers or email addresses. The trouble is, it's very easy for the lines to get blurred. Public and private space get muddied. So what do you do? You don't want to risk losing the kids, so you give them your own mobile number. And once that's happened, once a number is out there. And emails, too; I've sent personal emails to sixth-formers wishing them luck with their exam the next day. You can't be a jobsworth these days. An email or text is very much a one-to-one thing; a pupil might feel specially valued. Even on the school site, I could be marking online, live, maybe quite late in the evening. I could have had a glass of wine. I could start discussing work with a student who's also online. It's Facebook by another name, really. You could easily make comments you'd regret. Digital communication is a two-way street. Phil Ryan, a now-retired science teacher from Liverpool, briefly became an unlikely — and, as far as he was concerned, unwished-for — internet sensation last year when mobile phone footage of him doing the funky chicken for a sixth-form class on the last day of term was posted on YouTube and attracted more than 5,000 viewings and plenty of adverse comments within days. Last year, a group of boys at the Forest School in Horsham, West Sussex, used Facebook and Bebo to abuse staff. Emails can be misinterpreted According to a survey this spring for the Association of Teachers and Lecturers and the Teachers Support Network, as many as one in 10 teachers have experienced some form of cyberbullying. Some 63% of those surveyed had received unwelcome emails, 26% had offensive messages posted about them on sites such as Facebook or RateMyTeacher, and 28% were sent abusive text messages. The consequences can be serious for teachers, many of whom are less technologically sophisticated than their students: 39% said their confidence fell, 25% felt it made them less effective teachers, and 6% said they had been forced to sign off on sick leave. That can be incredibly distressing. And they can do worse; there was a case in one school where pupils took a photo of a teacher's face, edited it onto a really gross, pornographic image of another woman's body, and stuck it online. It has called for any school policy that requests or requires teachers to disclose their mobile numbers or email addresses to pupils to be banned; wants new legislation to outlaw teachers being named on websites; would like strategies to prevent all use of mobile phones when school is in session; and has even demanded that pupils' phones be classed as potentially dangerous weapons. But they've thrown up new pressures and concerns. For a start, they've changed expectations of teachers — there's a real expectation in some schools now that teachers will basically be available at the convenience of the pupil. There's also, with email, an expectation of a more or less instant response. And these forms of communication are far more informal, in style and content. You respond in a way you never would in a letter, or face to face. A lot of the union's casework involves the use of mobile phones in schools, particularly in the classroom. In some cases, teachers have had to defend themselves against allegations of misconduct from schools following the anonymous posting of classroom videos that they were not even aware had been filmed. Faced with the real risk of members either falling into difficulty involuntarily, or being deliberately targeted for abuse, unions and authorities have begun running extended courses for teachers on the pitfalls of new technology. Most trainees are clear in their view that they would be unwise to open up their Facebook profiles to pupils, for example — and also aware from teaching practice that school policies now often specifically tell staff not to do so. In terms of texting and phones, we just advise very strongly that teachers do not make themselves accessible in any way at all that might be considered not appropriate. False allegations of misconduct can have a truly devastating impact on a career. But I think teachers should be active online; it might even help prevent some of the things children can get up to, the very sexualised pictures they post of themselves online, for example. Banning us is almost insulting; it's like saying: 'You can't be trusted. We should be in that cyberspace arena. Teachers have to ask themselves: if a third party sees this, is it open to misinterpretation? Most people know exactly what kind of relationship they should develop with young people. But with this culture of ever greater accessibility, ever greater involvement and engagement, it's far easier for those essential boundaries, that distance, to be eroded. It repeated a widely-circulated misrepresentation of a piece of research on student-teacher relationships. This has been removed.
Last updated
